Wednesday, December 14, 2011
Its been a while...
Life has been crazy. Its busy. My son has become increasingly needy of my attention, and I'm finding myself more drained and exhausted than I was last year at this time. You would think with time things would get easier. I'd adjust to the new life, its rhythm and demands. But things are easier. They are hard. And some days they are much harder than they were last year at this time.
I called a few of my single mom friends, and asked them, "What is wrong with me? Shouldn't I have adjusted by now?" They all reassured me that I am not screwed up. Its normal. And I'm living in a continual fluctuation. There are seasons where I feel ready, able to take on more. And for a while I'm able to. Then months later life fluctuates. I can no longer take on what I was able to before. Its like this on so many fronts. Its confusing. Its frustrating. Its exhausting.
A perfect example is the never ending bedtime saga. Ever since my late husband's death, bed time with my son is a struggle. This three and a half year old boy doesn't want to go to sleep anywhere but with me. I believe this is the biggest source of my drain. The three hour fight at night. It seems that I'm able to find the "trick" that works, and it lasts for a short while. Then... fluctuate! Now that trick no longer gets him to bed easily and I'm back at square one trying every trick in the book to get this boy to sleep on time.
So while I work through this latest struggle, I ask for your patience. I want nothing more than to be well rested, composed, and able to fulfill the demands I place on myself. But I have to be honest with myself and work within my limits. And right now I'm operating beyond them. I'm making a point of taking time to make sure I get the rest I need. We all need to do that. If we don't take care of ourselves, who will?